Like most people, I aspire to make the world a better place. My skills work towards that end by bringing those in conflict together and assisting them through a process that can minimally be far more productive than what they are currently experiencing and hopefully so much more than that.

Dear Prospective Client,

Conflict that has escalated to the point that has you reaching out for assistance is scary. There can be so many unknowns, and a lot hangs in the balance regarding relationships and what direction they will take in the coming weeks or months.  

The fear associated with conflict is entirely understandable. Conflict does not bring out our best selves. We often see or hear things in or from others we would have never imagined. It is reasonable you would feel fear. It makes sense you would feel anger. It is absolutely understandable that you would feel pain.  

Understanding the consequences or byproducts of conflict doesn't mitigate them if you don't change your approach to conflict. Fear, anger, and pain do not facilitate satisfying outcomes to conflict. They are especially destructive to relationships and erode love but most importantly trust. Nobody wants to try to work things out with someone looking out for only their best interests - the win-lose approach often present at the height of conflict. Even if you have decided to end the relationship, I would suggest that a cooperative - even collaborative - approach to doing so would be far more effective by way of expediency and cost savings and results in greater satisfaction in the outcome by way of thorough, sustainable agreements. And it is ultimately better for your family and your future.

I often see conflict as a river to be navigated. I am your guide on that river. Sometimes, there are troublesome rapids where things can feel out of control. However, this is familiar territory for me, and I can safely maneuver parties through these rough waters with sensitive confidence. Eventually, we get to calmer waters, where we pull off and drop a line to fish for clarity, understanding, and, most importantly, solutions. Corny? Maybe, but true nonetheless.

If you are feeling afraid, angry, in pain, or all three, don't hesitate to get in touch with me for a free consultation. Let's discuss the possibilities family or divorce mediation can offer you and your situation.  

My Best,

Sharleé Johnston Brosnan, CFM, CDFA®

Your Oregon Mediator