Sharleé, Your Oregon Mediator
Having just entered my 26th year of family and divorce mediation practice, I have been privileged to assist over 750 couples constructively through divorce and have trained hundreds in mediation and conflict management.
With this experience, I have developed a competency in dealing with complicated and high-conflict divorce, separation, and co-parenting issues. As a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, I am skilled in working for high-net-worth individuals to develop equitable agreements around complex business matters, asset and debt division, and spousal and child support.
You will find that I practice a hybrid evaluative/directive/facilitative form of family and divorce mediation. This style provides leadership and support to both parties and improves the chances of a drama-free experience. It avails my clients of a focused process designed to develop understanding with the parties that empowers and encourages cooperation without feeling threatened.
I love what I do. I am tenacious and hopelessly optimistic, and I bring a creative approach to the table that helps my clients achieve results that address and meet their needs. As your Oregon Mediator, I look forward to connecting with you.
Dear Prospective Client,
Conflict that has escalated to the point that has you reaching out for assistance is scary. There can be so many unknowns, and a lot hangs in the balance regarding relationships and what direction they will take in the coming weeks or months.
The fear associated with conflict is entirely understandable. Conflict does not bring out our best selves. We often see or hear things in or from others we would have never imagined. It is reasonable you would feel fear. It makes sense you would feel anger. It is absolutely understandable that you would feel pain.
Understanding the consequences or byproducts of conflict doesn't mitigate them if you don't change your approach to conflict. Fear, anger, and pain do not facilitate satisfying outcomes to conflict. They are especially destructive to relationships and erode love but most importantly trust. Nobody wants to try to work things out with someone looking out for only their best interests - the win-lose approach often present at the height of conflict. Even if you have decided to end the relationship, I would suggest that a cooperative - even collaborative - approach to doing so would be far more effective by way of expediency and cost savings and results in greater satisfaction in the outcome by way of thorough, sustainable agreements. And it is ultimately better for your family and your future.
I often see conflict as a river to be navigated. I am your guide on that river. Sometimes, there are troublesome rapids where things can feel out of control. However, this is familiar territory for me, and I can safely maneuver parties through these rough waters with sensitive confidence. Eventually, we get to calmer waters, where we pull off and drop a line to fish for clarity, understanding, and, most importantly, solutions. Corny? Maybe, but true nonetheless.
If you are feeling afraid, angry, in pain, or all three, don't hesitate to get in touch with me for a free consultation. Let's discuss the possibilities family or divorce mediation can offer you and your situation.
Your Oregon Mediator